Sunshine Through the Suck

She gave me a place to land in my darkest time—and helped me find my way through it.
— Eli R

NON-CLINICAL · IN-PERSON FIRST

This is my flagship. Not a reset. Not a productivity marathon. This is trauma-informed, non-clinical, in-person support for women (cis and trans) and LGBTQIA+ people navigating major life transitions — where the hard thing isn't "figuring it out," it's doing it without collapsing.

You've been the reliable one. The one who holds it together. The one everyone counts on. This is where you finally get to receive the same care you've always provided. Don't do hard things alone anymore. I help you stay regulated and get it done.

This is Waytending at its most hands-on — in-person, practical, and steady through the whole hard day.

Best for you if you need

  • A calm, capable person beside you while you do something emotionally loaded and overdue

  • Body doubling for the life stuff you’ve been neglecting because you’ve been in survival mode

  • Someone who can hold space for grief, anger, doubt, and brain-weasel spirals without making it a performance

  • Support through a major transition when your support system is unreliable, judgmental, or gone

What you get

  • You feel supported, not handled

  • You feel steadier while you move through the hard moment

  • You get proof you can rely on yourself again—because you didn’t force yourself to do it alone

What it looks like (a few examples)

  • The Ex-Spouse Purge: boxing, sorting, donating, rearranging, reclaiming the space.

  • The Neglected Life Catch-Up: appointments booked, inbox dealt with, paperwork handled, home reset—while I body-double and keep you from quitting.

  • The Big Scary Errand Day: DMV, attorney consult, bank, HR, school meeting, difficult family visit—someone beside you.

  • The “Sit With Me Through The Suck” Day: you talk, cry, rage, untangle the story, and we keep taking small steps so you don’t freeze.

What’s included

  • Pre-day calibration call (30 min): what we’re doing, what support you need, what the boundaries are

  • Up to 5 hours (Half Day) or 9 hours (Full Day) in-person support

  • Practical help + emotional grounding (presence, pacing, decision support, scripts, breaks)

  • A short wrap-up message after: what we accomplished + next step (not a “plan,” just the next foothold)

What it is NOT

  • Therapy, diagnosis, or clinical treatment — if you want clinical support, I'll help you find it and I'm happy to work alongside it as practical backup

  • Medical/legal advice

  • Crisis response or suicidal intervention

  • Physical protection, confrontation, or “I’ll fight your ex” energy

  • Housekeeping labor as the core service (I can assist lightly, but I’m not your cleaning crew)

Boundaries

  • You cover expenses (donation runs, storage bins, meals, parking, etc.)

  • No drugs/illegal activity; no driving anyone impaired

  • If an environment becomes unsafe, we leave

  • If the need is crisis-level, I’ll help connect you to appropriate resources, but I’m not the resource

I got divorced at 52 and relocated myself across the country at 53 — no friends, no family for thousands of miles. Therapy is great but if you can’t put it into practice, things don’t really get better. Sunshine helps me put my therapy into practice.
— Meredith O.